Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Poor Neglected Blog

Well it has been an intense time down under for the shams. I have been in Brisbane with Dad. Mum did not make it home from the hospital this time. We had the unspeakably heartbreaking time of supporting Dad and each other as we directed the doctors to stop treatment and manage pain relief until less than 48 hours later Mum passed away. The pain she went through while they were treating her (treatments which weren't working) was so distressing to see. She kept pulling at her canulas, crying out as a particular antibiotics were administered and itching all over most of the time. In the end her kidneys failed and then the morphine worsened her respiration and her heart stopped. It was about 5.30am on Sunday the 7th September. At that time I was lying in bed looking out at the sunshine, listening to Ave Maria and saying a prayer for Mum so in hind sight I a pretty sure she came by to give us a wave.
We met some wonderful people during that time. I'll never forget their kindness and the love and care my father gave to Mum too - his incredible strength as he lost woman he had loved for 50 years. He had some very definite ideas about saying goodbye once she had gone - lovely sad farewells that will go on until he joins her one day (hopefully not for many many years!).
I am back in Sydney and the pain is raw. Still I give thanks for all the wonderful memories and the love and other gifts my mother bestowed upon us all with selfless generosity. May her soul rest in peace. Amen.

8 comments:

Michelle said...

Oh Shelley I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mother. I can only imagine the pain; and for your father losing the one he loved for 50 years. I'm sure it brought him some measure of comfort that you were able to be there with him through such a difficult time. May the memories of your mom last for years and bring smiles out of the sadness. Peace, prayers, and hugs to you.

Roy's Family said...

Very sorry to hear that your mum has past away. Best wishes to all your family.

Christina said...

I am so srry for your loss!
We will be thinking of youguys!

Hugs fr Austria

homealonemom said...

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom-I lost mine last summer. My prayers are with you as you and your family grieve and heal.

homealonemom said...

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom-I lost mine last summer. My prayers are with you as you and your family grieve and heal.

Beth said...

Shelley, so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are prayers are with you and your family as you grieve.

Tommy's mommy said...

Oh Shelley! I'm so sorry to hear of your mom passing away. Hang in there. You will be in my prayers.

Traci said...

Shelley, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I pray that you have peace and healing in your heart.
Traci