tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25528218.post5844184350202557354..comments2023-10-24T23:22:32.585+11:00Comments on SHAMPTONS: Sad Faces and TwinsShelleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15306619273869164248noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25528218.post-119894689883347342010-11-24T21:49:05.483+11:002010-11-24T21:49:05.483+11:00Adelaide - thank you so much for your comments - a...Adelaide - thank you so much for your comments - as ever thoughtful and informative - I loved visiting the other two blogs on this issue. My problem isn't that Hannah isn't doing well on it (although she isn't always 'gold star'!) it is more about HOW I manage it - it really isn't a discipline issue - it's a readiness and physiological issue - and both she and I find that confusing as mentally she and I both 'get' it - but then she has a wee incident at school and all the public shame and Victorian toilet sensabilities come rushing to the fore... I hope she always know that I am in total awe of what she is able to do...Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15306619273869164248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25528218.post-60651141018268343302010-11-24T20:29:23.982+11:002010-11-24T20:29:23.982+11:00Yes the constipation has definitely improved - it ...Yes the constipation has definitely improved - it used to be awful - she's had it since she was a baby - and sometimes it would just break my heart. We tried various laxatives that were recommended by her paed. The improvement was really just her developing strength and understanding what was required.<br />Having said that she has been basically potty trained for years - and in fact was easier to train than Kit. I do feel guilty about how we react if she has an accident at school - but at the same time - it is what makes her realise that it isn't ok - and hence modify her behaviour. I have just put her to bed - and she is so gorgeous - her hair is freshly washed and shiny and she is so adorable - I feel absolutely blessed to have her and just hope that I don't mess the little sweetheart up with adult expectations/stereotypes too much along the way!Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15306619273869164248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25528218.post-78579531717404457872010-11-24T18:36:17.777+11:002010-11-24T18:36:17.777+11:00Such a cute story. Yes I can see what Hannah is th...Such a cute story. Yes I can see what Hannah is thinking. Life is unfair at times!<br />Hope the constipation improves. It seems to be a common thing amongst our children with Ds.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08387233422680082479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25528218.post-70056093227160211542010-11-24T16:32:34.784+11:002010-11-24T16:32:34.784+11:00In recent times, the guys have written about toile...In recent times, the guys have written about toilet training.<br /><br />(and especially constipation and lack of tone).<br /><br /><a href="http://gotdownsyndrome.blogspot.com/2010/11/more-on-potty-training.html" rel="nofollow">Q's post on More Potty Training</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.only1mom.com/2010/11/potty-training-xander-task-analysis.html" rel="nofollow">Xander's Task Analysis from Only One Mum</a><br /><br />I was taught 2 things: You can't control what comes out of your kid's mouth and that you can't control what comes out of their bottom (or into it for that matter).<br /><br />This, for me, is useful boundary drawing.<br /><br />Constipation is horrible, no matter what causes it.<br /><br />The door in the toilet isn't a 100% accessible, is it? It's good that Han is feeling comfortable with it.<br /><br />Loving Kit's experiments! And it's good to read about the reward/punishment system. It probably encourages self and peer modelling and monitoring.<br /><br />And smell is the sense of fear and prejudice. It also gives much pleasure and tolerance.Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.com